Transformational Coaching
If your success were inevitable how would you act, think, feel, BELIEVE differently about your journey?
In this video I go even further and talk about a concept, the “same 10 miles” to get to your final destination.
Whatever you’re going through, just remember… the way you go about your journey will make or break your experience.
You got this.
In wellness,
Susan
Oftentimes in our life we wonder what went wrong to be in a “barren” cycle of our life. But what if there was a gift through it all?
Watch this recent live as I share this one question you can ask yourself to begin creating more space in your life during this crucial season in your life.
In wellness,
Susan
A month or two ago I had a dream.
And while I don’t remember the dream itself the message was loud and clear.
When we are in the thick of things we want to resist what we are experiencing, but how can we argue against reality?
Once we accept and acknowledge that our experience is all we have in our life we can then lean into the parts of our experience that is trying to tell us something.
What is there to learn?
What is my life trying to tell me?
How can I transform this into something good?
So…
No matter what you are going through,
Never doubt the human experience. YOUR human experience.
Lean in. Trust. Have faith.
The answer lies within.
Always.
In wellness,
Susan
Ever sent an angry text or email to someone and instantly regretted it? Or maybe the regret wasn’t instant but you still felt crummy?
Chances are you said a few things that might not have been stated so eloquently let alone matter to you 3 months from now.
Why in the world do we do that?!
Anger is one of those emotions that does not serve. It’s an emotion that needs to be processed with love so that you can begin to see clearly again.
Once you’ve gained conscious awareness that you are in an angry state, I like to recommend the process of Abraham Lincoln called Hot Letters.
Good ol’ Abe Lincoln wrote letters to whom he was angry at and wrote until he had nothing else left to say. He would then keep these letters in a safe place. Yes, that’s right, he never sent them.
Because here’s the thing, when in history did anger ever lead us to peace?
The next time you feel angry write it all out. Address the person, thing, or event; call names; say whatever you need to say and let it all out until you start to repeat yourself.
And trust me. Don’t send it. Your future self will thank you.
And then, instead of keeping it in a safe place why not burn it or rip it up into tiny pieces?
The very act of physically watching your thoughts get thrown away actually helps to release your thoughts from your brain.
Anger happens. It’s a human emotion. But don’t let it get the best of you.
Love yourself a little more during this time…
Stay calm and write the letters.
In wellness,
Susan
There’s something amazing about declaring your goals and intent out into the world.
Maybe it’s the energetic act of pulling it out of your head & heart, and into the open.
Or, perhaps it’s the next step in creation itself to go from thought to voice.
Either way, these personal aspirations of mine have been on my heart for quite some time and I wanted to share it in hopes that it would spark some inspiration in your own aspirations as we turn another season.
So what’s on your personal manifesto?
Am I missing some good ones?
Let me know and let’s share what we’ve got to offer in this epic life we have.
In wellness,
Susan
If anyone’s been through burnout it’s me, and I can’t say it was pretty.
And if you’ve been there yourself, most likely you’re nodding along with the words on this page.
While on the surface there seems to be many reasons for burnout, there is only one source of it.
You see, if you have a ton of things you’re juggling in your life right now, and especially if you’re Type A to boot, well most likely there’s a sense of urgency driving you to do the things you do.
And if you’re in burnout then you are always, and I mean always, driving yourself from a sense of lack or fear.
The one exception there is are results. If you can look at the past 30 days and physically account for the new results you created in your life, then yes hun… take the break (and if you’re fearful of taking the break then that’s a whole other issue we need to discuss!).
But if you can’t find the results and most of your explanations are in your thoughts, then at least we have something to dissect so that we can get to the core of the issue.
Take a look at these questions below and block out 30 minutes for yourself to take an honest inventory:
The way you talk to yourself stem from a thought you have about the situation and ultimately yourself.
Once we address THIS, it will determine whether you continue down the path to burnout or recovery.
So tell me…
How often do you think thoughts of success? Abundance? Love?
and
How often do you think thoughts of fear? Worry? Confusion? Scarcity?
The honest truth is that burnout is never caused by working too much. When you accept the moments for what they are, you can put in the hours and never feel as if you worked.
So what can you do?
You think better thoughts.
No one ever tell us we can choose our thoughts, but we can.
This is true personal power.
Once you realize you are the director of your own movie you are now playing at the causal level.
No longer are you being tossed around like a leaf by the wind. You ARE the wind itself.
So be responsible. Take charge. Own your thoughts and commit to the future you want.
No one is here to save us, and that is good news my friends because now we can finally take action of our own lives.
In wellness,
Susan
Before I start going into the biggest mistake we make when trying to get rid of stress, I wanted to take a moment and make one thing clear: stress is a part of life; some stress is even healthy for you.
But so often what happens is that we make stress mean something other than it is.
You see, as humans we have been given the power of free will. The power to choose our thoughts. And we get to choose between positive, negative, and neutral. So when things happen in our life we choose to make things much more stressful than they actually are.
For most, this is a hard concept to grasp because what we think we are reacting to is just the fact of life, but what we are ACTUALLY responding to is a thought about what is happening.
(I know, this stuff can get confusing but I promise it’s simple)
Here’s the biggest mistake we make when it comes to getting rid of stress.
What if peace comes first after you acknowledge you are at peace with the situation?
What if, by recognizing things are just happening because they are happening you stop resisting the moment?
What if, by allowing yourself in a non-judgmental way to feel whatever it is you are feeling, you are actually speeding up the process toward peace?
You see, stress is ultimately what we make it. When we are stressed, it allows us the opportunity to inquire within and ask, what is actually stressful here? Because when we really dig deep and ask ourselves, “so what?”, we will often find there is fear to be found and THAT is the real work we must tend to.
So the next time you feel stress creeping up around the corner, ask yourself, “so what?” and see what unfolds for you.
In wellness,
Susan
One of my absolute favorite ways to goal setting is in 4 easy steps. I don’t like to over complicate things and find that when I follow this simple formula, I make it very clear and actionable to my brain to reach my goal.
The first step to any goal setting exercise is to – SET THE GOAL!
What is it that you want to focus on? Try to keep your sentence simple and straightforward without adding any additional goals interspersed. For example, a clear goal would be: I want to learn to meditate.
A not so clear goal would be: I want to learn to meditate the various forms of meditation and master one of them.
While there’s nothing wrong with mastering meditation what makes it difficult for your brain is that suddenly there is more than one goal for it to focus on. Pick one and commit before moving on to the next goal.
The second step to setting a goal is to focus on your desired feeling.
Take some time here to visualize yourself once you’ve achieved your goal. Where are you specifically? What does your face look like? How do you feel in your body? What are you saying? Who is with you?
Take yourself to that moment and FEEL what it would feel like to achieve this goal.
What I love about this exercise is that you’re already feeling what you initially wanted to feel. Think about it, what drives every human being to DO something is because they want to FEEL something. I often tell people to feel it first and sometimes, not all the time but sometimes, the client may realize it wasn’t so much the goal they were after more than it was the FEELING. Pretty awesome.
So next it’s pretty simple, we need to set actionable steps to get to your goal! If we’re using the “learn to meditate” example above a few actionable steps might be:
A word of caution: learning the difference between PASSIVE action and straight ACTION is key.
Passive action is when it feels like you’re taking a lot of action but there’s no outcome to prove it. For example, learning about meditation is not the same as visiting a meditation center or actually meditating.
Next is my second favorite about goal setting. It’s setting CONSTRAINTS.
Constraints are limitations or restrictions you set yourself so that you can stay laser focused on the goal. One constraint can be, no social media or blue light activity after 9pm. Another constraint might be, commit to ONE form of meditation.
Constraints help us to keep the blinders on so that we aren’t constantly distracted by the next shiny, tempting object.
This does one of two things.
First, it allows you to understand the direct result you’re looking for and forces you to be specific. That way, you don’t end up setting one goal, and have it be a never ending goal…
Second, it provides a way for your brain to receive a dopamine hit once you’ve achieved your goal. If you don’t get specific about the goal, how will you know you ever reached it? Small, short wins are the key to keeping yourself motivated and excited about every step you take.
So there you have it dear souls! Goal setting in 4 simple steps.
In wellness,
Susan
It’s happening folks! My vision for this book I was going to write has now transformed into a Masterclass! For some of you who have been following closely you know this has been in the works for quite some time.
Trying to find the time to fit the scripting, recording, and editing has been quite fun to observe, but well worth it.
This means everything I know and used to help manage my adrenal fatigue so that I could start living my life despite diagnosis, all in one place. And the good news? I made full recovery.
But here’s the thing, everything that I teach in this Masterclass I STILL use today! Because when does managing stress and your mind ever stop?!
Years of learning all in this one Masterclass. Head on over to the website and sign up to be on the early bird wait list to hear all about the launch soon!! I can’t wait to share it with you.
🧠
www.susanchoiwellness.com/
In my practice I particularly enjoy working with clients who are experiencing adrenal fatigue or other auto-immune related illness. Why? Because I’ve been there myself. I understand what it took to full recovery and wish I knew the tools and thought management techniques I know now. Regardless, I am incredibly thankful to share what I know today.
What I notice happening a lot with people experiencing adrenal fatigue (or other related illness) is a three part phase:
The first phase is clear for anyone who suddenly understands the depth of their situation. It’s a time where you begin to question everything in your life and analyze what lifestyle patterns may have caused adrenal fatigue in the first place. Bottom line: give yourself a good cry. Don’t judge yourself for why you got here or panic about how you can change things. Let it be and give yourself compassion.
The second phase is a re-birth of sorts. You begin to track down some of the best doctors who can help you identify a path to recovery. It’s a time to learn more healthy lifestyle habits to incorporate and if there’s one piece of advice I give to anyone going through this now it’s this: don’t get overwhelmed about the plethora of information out there, this is the opposite of recovery. Trust the information will flow to you; trust the timing and don’t rush it.
The third phase is what I wanted to emphasize in today’s blog post. You see, how you manage your brain will be the KEY to whether or not you can mindfully continue through to maintenance phase or it will be the point it which you plateau completely or retreat back to phase one.
If we can’t manage our minds to begin with, we will have a much longer time recovering from adrenal fatigue. This is why understanding how your brain works and whether or not it is serving you will be key to achieving peace.
Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to understand whether or not you need to evaluate your current thought process:
If you answered yes to any of the above, chances are you would benefit from understanding why your brain works the way that it does, and how making tweaks to your own internal process can help provide more peace, joy, and personal power into your life.
You see in a nutshell, when you understand your brain and why you have certain thoughts you start to uncover limiting beliefs, habituated thought and behavioral patterns. With this recognition you can now do the work to understand your individual mental model that has been driving your actions until now.
After all, if you’re doing all the work to live a healthier, more mindful lifestyle why not work on the one thing that can help you manage stress to begin with?
Because the good news is it’s completely possible to optimize your very own internal world and THAT, is priceless.
In wellness,
Susan
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