Transformational Coaching
What happens if you make a decision from fear? What options do you have?
One of the biggest stressors when it comes to decision making IS making decisions from fear.
I answer a listener question in this live video I did on my Facebook page. Watch this short video as I expand on what it means to make a decision on fear and the two options you have.
In wellness,
Suasn
Wow guys, it is JUNE.
June?!
Can you all believe just how fast Summer arrived? Where are we with our goals and evolving to become our better and best selves? This will be a whole other blog post but for now I hope you’ve been enjoying the better half of the year and have taken progress toward your dreams.
So, back to boredom.
According to the Googs (Google), boredom is, “…an emotional or psychological state experienced when an individual is left without anything in particular to do, is not interested in his or her surroundings, or feels that a day or period is dull or tedious“.
A multitude of thoughts can cause boredom; here are a few common ones I hear:
Please know that boredom itself and/or the circumstances that cause boredom is certainly not to blame. Yes, I repeat, NOT to blame.
Now that you know YOU are the one in control and have eliminated any blame outside yourself, there are moments in our lives when we are called to expand and evolve, and yet our primitive minds are too comfortable with where we are. (You know EXACTLY who you are even without expanding on this further.)
This feeling of complacency often is accompanied by feelings of restlessness, anxiety, hopelessness, etc. and can often by eased by buffering ourselves in the form of over drinking, overeating, over spending, over internet-ing, etc.
However, buffering is a false positive. We know that already. Buffering only leads to short term pleasure and long term pain.
Instead, what our soul is longing for is expansion. We long for creativity, growth… and the constant evolution of who we are! Yet underneath all that we thought was “boredom”, fear is really holding us back.
The fear of what you say?
You tell me.
What is it your soul has been longing for? What do you dare not to dream? If you were granted as many wishes your heart desired, what would you wish for? What are you afraid to do? What are you afraid of?
Don’t use boredom as an excuse. Honor what you’re feeling and truly dig deep. What is boredom hiding for you?
My hope is that we build enough personal power to know deep down we can handle anything. And when we know we can handle anything… that’s when we can face any circumstance or emotion (such as boredom) and know we will come out the other side as a bigger, better, evolved human being.
Here’s to understanding boredom, and thanking it.
In wellness,
Susan
Susan is a Life Coach based in Seattle, WA. Her main focus is to coach people build a strong emotional container so that we can experience the fullness of life coming from a place of deep confidence. Susan also coaches clients looking to heal adrenal fatigue by using a mental meta-model aimed at breaking down old mental patterns and behaviors so that we can finally tap into our own personal power.
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Do you often find that unresolved emotions lead to regretful decisions?
Why is that? Well here are a few examples:
1) Anger at someone > “I’ll show him/her!” > Send hasty email
2) Anxiety, depression > Escapism > Open pint of ice cream
3) Regret, shame > Need to fix > Run 5 miles
4) Frustration, angst, sadness > Need to get it off your chest > Call friend in a heated moment, say the wrong things
5) Guilt > Need to fix > Over compensate or over commit to something you, deep down, don’t want to do
I don’t know about you but I have certainly found myself in a number of these situations before… and then I realized there was a key step in-between the emotion and the decision:
SELF AWARENESS / MINDFULNESS / SURRENDER / GOD / COMPASSION
Call it what you need to fit into your framework but for simplicity’s sake let’s call it Awareness.
When you have the awareness right **after** the emotion begins and right **before** the decision THAT is all you need to step back for just a moment.
And in that stepping back can you just sit with the emotion? Where is it in your body? Can you drop into it? What is it really trying to tell you?
Take a moment or two, heck take a week if you must! Take as long as you need until you feel good about your decision and know you aren’t trying to avoid the feeling. We seem to be good at that as we humans evolved.
Last but not least, don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get it each and every time! For some it comes easy and for others it requires a bit more practice, mindfulness, and/or guidance. But but know this: there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are everything you need to be and everything is unfolding in your divine order.
In wellness.