HPA-D Archives - Susan Choi

If anyone’s been through burnout it’s me, and I can’t say it was pretty.

And if you’ve been there yourself, most likely you’re nodding along with the words on this page.

While on the surface there seems to be many reasons for burnout, there is only one source of it.

Your mind.

You see, if you have a ton of things you’re juggling in your life right now, and especially if you’re Type A to boot, well most likely there’s a sense of urgency driving you to do the things you do.

And if you’re in burnout then you are always, and I mean always, driving yourself from a sense of lack or fear.

The one exception there is are results. If you can look at the past 30 days and physically account for the new results you created in your life, then yes hun… take the break (and if you’re fearful of taking the break then that’s a whole other issue we need to discuss!).

But if you can’t find the results and most of your explanations are in your thoughts, then at least we have something to dissect so that we can get to the core of the issue.

Take a look at these questions below and block out 30 minutes for yourself to take an honest inventory:

What am I most hard on about myself?
When was the last time I treated myself because I was proud vs. because I was tired?
How do I talk to myself when I am embarrassed or failed at something?
What do I say when I look in the mirror?
Do I spend too much time thinking about what decisions I should make?
How often do you think about what other people think about you?
Do you reach for the wine, the bag of chips, or incessantly check Instagram the moment you don’t feel good?

The way you talk to yourself stem from a thought you have about the situation and ultimately yourself.

Once we address THIS, it will determine whether you continue down the path to burnout or recovery.

So tell me…

How often do you think thoughts of success? Abundance? Love?

and

How often do you think thoughts of fear? Worry? Confusion? Scarcity?

The honest truth is that burnout is never caused by working too much. When you accept the moments for what they are, you can put in the hours and never feel as if you worked.

Burnout is caused by the thoughts you have about the situations in your life. Ultimately it is what you are resisting, and when you argue against reality you will always lose.

So what can you do?

You think better thoughts.

No one ever tell us we can choose our thoughts, but we can.

This is true personal power.

Once you realize you are the director of your own movie you are now playing at the causal level.

No longer are you being tossed around like a leaf by the wind. You ARE the wind itself.

So be responsible. Take charge. Own your thoughts and commit to the future you want.

No one is here to save us, and that is good news my friends because now we can finally take action of our own lives.

In wellness,

Susan

Before I start going into the biggest mistake we make when trying to get rid of stress, I wanted to take a moment and make one thing clear: stress is a part of life; some stress is even healthy for you.

But so often what happens is that we make stress mean something other than it is.

You see, as humans we have been given the power of free will. The power to choose our thoughts. And we get to choose between positive, negative, and neutral. So when things happen in our life we choose to make things much more stressful than they actually are.

For most, this is a hard concept to grasp because what we think we are reacting to is just the fact of life, but what we are ACTUALLY responding to is a thought about what is happening.

(I know, this stuff can get confusing but I promise it’s simple)

Here’s the biggest mistake we make when it comes to getting rid of stress.

The very act of getting rid of it is the mistake. By getting rid of it you are creating resistance and giving stress more power. By thinking there is a need to “get rid of it” you are presupposing there is something wrong to begin with.

What if peace comes first after you acknowledge you are at peace with the situation?

What if, by recognizing things are just happening because they are happening you stop resisting the moment?

What if, by allowing yourself in a non-judgmental way to feel whatever it is you are feeling, you are actually speeding up the process toward peace?

You see, stress is ultimately what we make it. When we are stressed, it allows us the opportunity to inquire within and ask, what is actually stressful here? Because when we really dig deep and ask ourselves, “so what?”, we will often find there is fear to be found and THAT is the real work we must tend to.

So the next time you feel stress creeping up around the corner, ask yourself, “so what?” and see what unfolds for you.

In wellness,

Susan

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Learn If THIS Is Keeping You In Burnout

Your mind.

Burnout is caused by the thoughts you have about the situations in your life. Ultimately it is what you are resisting, and when you argue against reality you will always lose.

Learn The Biggest Mistake You Make When Trying To Get Rid Of Stress!

The very act of getting rid of it is the mistake. By getting rid of it you are creating resistance and giving stress more power. By thinking there is a need to “get rid of it” you are presupposing there is something wrong to begin with.