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What We All Have In Common

I know some pretty amazing successful people, the kind of people that drive fancy cars, own big businesses and seem to have it all. And I also know people that are, well, regular people.

But you know what we all have in common? Doubt.

We all have those mornings where we wake up wondering what the heck we are doing.

We wake up wondering am I on the right path.

We wake up fearing what we are going to do that day because we know it’s beyond our Edge.

We wake up depressed wondering why we are feeling the way that we do.

And I’m here to tell you that you are not the only one feeling these feelings.

These are experiences that we have because we are human. As long as we’re here on Earth we’re going to feel all the feels. And it’s up to you on how you want to transform this feeling, because it’s going to come back, and it’s how you think about what it means that is going to make or break you.

You’re not special for having these feelings, because everybody is special and has these feelings. You’re not the only one, nor are you weird for feeling these feelings.

There is nothing wrong with you there is everything right about you. So don’t let something like a feeling be in your way. Go out there and be big.

In wellness,

Susan

Susan Choi is an Integrative Life Coach and helps people experiencing deep adrenal fatigue and other auto-immune illness manage their recovery by focusing on optimizing their mental state. Learn a mental meta-model aimed at breaking down old mental patterns and behaviors so that you can finally tap into your own personal power.

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Change Starts With You

No matter how much knowledge we have accumulated there will never be a “right” time than now. Start stepping toward your dream life now.

Do the change. No one else will do it for you.

Because who better to do it than you?

In wellness,

Susan

Susan is a Life Coach based in Seattle, WA. Her main focus is to coach people build a strong emotional container so that we can experience the fullness of life coming from a place of deep confidence. Susan also coaches clients looking to heal adrenal fatigue by using a mental meta-model aimed at breaking down old mental patterns and behaviors so that we can finally tap into our own personal power.

Perceptual Intelligence

“Why bother keeping that potentially incorrect perception of the event when you can make something good come of it?”

~Brian Boxer Wachler, MD

Most of what I do is to build better Thought Management for clients so that they can begin to see their realities are nothing but what they perceive them to be. And THAT is power; to know that YOU are the one in control and not any one or any thing else.

Let me put this into context for you.

If you went on a 5 day trek in the jungle and had to drink water out of a small, dirty tank, and ration your water “just in case”, how might you perceive water when you return to your home where fresh, clean water is available 24/7?

Here’s one that you’ll get right away, how is it that when you don’t think you can do anymore of your workout, when the right song or when someone cute passes by you suddenly have a bolt of energy?

You decided to change your perception. And guess what? YOU ARE THE PERCEIVER which means you are the DIRECTOR of your own thoughts!

Doesn’t that offer so much power to you right away? To know it is your right to think whatever you wish and that the feelings and actions that follow are a direct result of what you think?

I get a spark of inspiration every time I realize this truth because it shows me just how in control I am of everything that happens.

Think of something you’re unsatisfied with and take yourself to the thought that preceded the feeling. What did you say to yourself that made you upset, anxious, or worried? What better thought or question can you ask yourself to get you a better feeling?

The power is in your hands always. Don’t let it go to waste.

In wellness,

Susan

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Friday Focus – 6/22/18 {The One Word That Indicates You Have A Limiting Belief}

We’ve all been there before, limiting beliefs and all, because we’re only human, right? But you know what? Whether we like it or not, it’s in our evolution to break free from old patterns and continue to grow – it’s how we’re wired.

I get it, oftentimes it can be hard to separate truth from illusion. Sometimes we’re so deep in the thick of things it REALLY DOES seems as if we’re incapable of going after what we want.

I’m here to tell you it IS possible, but first, we need to identify when those limiting beliefs start to creep into our thoughts and penetrate our lives.

A very effective and easy way to identify a limiting belief is by catching one word:

BUT

Yeah…BUT

Do you already see the ways in which the words that follow “but” can seem so true, yet doesn’t serve you? Here are a few examples:

…but I’m just not wired that way
…but s/he was born with those gifts, I wasn’t
…yeah, but it won’t work for me
…but my body type won’t let me lose these last 5 pounds
…but I’m too old to start something new

Honestly, the list can go on and on!

The good news is you have a mindful way of catching yourself, and as you do, make sure you aren’t judging the thought or yourself. The point isn’t to replace the “but” thought with another negative, judgmental thought!

Words are strong, watch what you say in passing.

Now is the time more than ever to deeply inquire with curiosity and compassion at what the root of your limiting belief is. Notice how your limiting beliefs hold you back from what you truly want out of life.

Remember, thoughts create action but if you have a limiting thought you can’t rely on a miracle to get you what you truly desire.

If it’s too hard to go the 180 from a limiting belief to a positive belief, try going to a neutral belief.

For example, if your limiting belief is, “I can’t stand my body”, and your positive belief statement is, “I love my body”, but you don’t find yourself completely believing it, try focusing on, “I have a body”.

The more you practice the neutral, bridging the thought the more you create capacity in your brain for better, positive thoughts that actually get you the results you want.

We all have limiting beliefs but they are truly a gift in disguise, because they point us toward what we really want.

In wellness,

Susan

What Will You Choose Today?

In wellness,

Susan

3 Signs You’re A People Pleaser

We’ve all done it before whether we want to admit it or not – people pleasing. Likely it comes from a deep primitive yearning for survival; after all, if you weren’t seen as part of the pack, you didn’t belong to the community and that meant you needed to fend for yourself – food, shelter, love, and all.

However, when we cultivate our own intrinsic worth there’s no need to people please because we already know what we like, don’t like, and what our boundaries are. Suddenly agreeing to something you don’t want to do, or feeling the need to apologize all the time falls out the window.

So, what are the signs of people pleasing?

You spend a lot of time thinking about someone else
- How much you spend your time thinking about what to say, do, act, or even wear before meeting this person (or group of people) is an early warning sign of people pleasing. Ask yourself, what is the underlying need for all this attention toward someone else’s acceptance? What does this mean if I don’t get “it” right?
Your feelings are hurt when someone ignores you or doesn’t show affection toward you
- It’s impossible for everyone to like you because everyone is worried about their own selves! Ask yourself why you get hurt when people don’t respond or react the way you want them to. What would it mean if someone didn’t like you? Often there’s a deeper limiting belief behind the negative emotion.
You say yes to things you don’t want to do
- Unfortunately when you continue to say yes to the things that don’t align with who you are or your deeper values, you end up in a puddle of resentment. Ask yourself what it means every time you say yes. What would you gain by saying yes? What would it mean if you said no?

The bottom line is: it’s impossible for everyone to like you, so why not start with YOU?

Ask yourself the questions under each of the headers above and answer truthfully. You will find it all comes down to rejection, fear, and the need to feel accepted.

But what if you could give the very thing you need to yourself instead of looking for it outside of you?

Once you realize there’s a shorter, more pain free way to acceptance, you will begin to live a life full of freedom and choice. Oh, and a lot more time 😉

In wellness,

Susan

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Regret

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did.”

~Mark Twain

Do it guys. Go for what scares you the most and never look back. The worst thing that can happen is you face your own emotions – good or bad. It’s never about what happens, it always about what you make it mean inside your own brain.

In wellness and love,

Susan

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Our Brains Are Creative Machines – Is It Working FOR You?

Did you know that everything we do is creative? That we are creative in nature and creation itself?

Our brains are constantly creating whether we know it or not. Whether it’s thinking, doing, or working physically to keep our bodies going.., we are in motion all the time.

Just as we are creative we were given the power of free will. We are in control 100% of the time and it all starts with a thought. What do you choose to believe?

In mindfulness practice we learn we are the observer of our thoughts and not the thoughts we are thinking. We also learn we are so good at creating stories we actually believe them.

When we start to get good at being the watcher we begin to create separation between self and thought, and when we do this, we begin to understand we are not our thoughts at all. Pause a minute because that’s HUGE.

It’s as if we were inside the movie this whole time and yet we didn’t realize we were the director of it all.

Our brains are smart. And it’s efficient. It will always be working on something, and because it’s efficient it will always work on what is easiest and safest. It’s what are primitive brains grew up knowing in order to survive.

But once we realize our thoughts and behaviors are mostly habituated patterns we can take back the power and start to reinstate new thoughts and behaviors that serve who we are today.

Just as it was easy for your brain to operate at a certain level, you need to put in the work and create a new neural pathway for your new level of operation. Think of it as a software upgrade for your computer, except this time, it’s for your brain.

The way in which we do this is actual practice. Thinking the new thought, following through on new actions, and committing to it all. After all, your commitment to think old thoughts and act in old ways is what got you the results you have today right?

Remember, our brains are creative machines and the power is in YOUR hands. Here’s to new ways of living.

In wellness,

Susan

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Friday Focus – 6/8/18 {True Commitment}

“Modern psychology houses that when we start something and don’t complete it, or make a resolution and don’t keep it, we’re forming a habit of failure – absolute ignonimous failure.”

~Charles F. Haanel

Have you ever dreamed of something and knew in your heart of hearts, that no matter what, you would achieve or attain what was in your minds eye?

I’ll give you a personal and simple example. Back when I was in high school, I had transferred from Seoul, in the middle of 10th grade, to another high school in Tokyo. While I eventually came to love my experience, in the beginning I was anything but happy.

My life quickly fell into a spiral of depression from missing my closest friends back home. With absolutely nothing to do I started filling up my time with volunteer activities and joining literally every extracurricular activity my school offered.

Why did I do that? Well, the new goal that quickly formed in my mind was, “I’m going to get into the college of my choice”, because for me, going to college symbolized freedom and adulthood. Having all this free time gave me a way to transform all the stagnant, depressive energy into something useful and by the time that goal was cemented into my brain I knew there was no way around it.

That was my first experience with true commitment.

There was no other option. Nothing held a candle to my goal that would have had me choose my actions differently. It became simple in my minds eye; LIFE became simple because everything either helped my goal or didn’t help my goal.

And trust me, I failed a lot. I tried my hand at joining the JV volleyball team and boy did I seriously NOT make the cut! There were looks and possible thoughts of, “wow, she’s really trying out for this?”, but guess what? I didn’t even blink an eye. People’s opinion (which by the way we truly have no way of validating everyone’s opinion) ranked so low on my priority list toward true commitment that it wasn’t even a concept to consider or to take the time thinking about.

When we have true commitment towards a goal it also helps us to get to where we want to be FASTER. We don’t allow doubt to enter our minds. We don’t allow other shiny objects distract us from our vision. We see with picture perfect clarity what is important to us in order to achieve our dream.

Finding true commitment is a personal journey. No one can do this for you because only YOU know you. You know what makes yourself tick and gets you going. No one else can determine your dream and that’s the beauty of doing the work to getting to know our inner world.

True commitment also takes work. We need to find and break through limiting beliefs, but what I’ve also found is that when you truly find your true commitment, this new commitment often becomes your new anchoring belief, and this anchoring belief obliterates any limiting beliefs you might have had previously.

So, what dreams did you dream for 2018? If you haven’t started yet, or are struggling with start/stop mentality (this is when you find yourself starting and then stopping), what is the thought that is holding you back? Can you take the time to identify what your true commitment is for each of your dreams?

When you get good at commitment and following through on your own word, you also build confidence. You begin to understand that obstacles are just hurdles to overcome and nothing is unsolvable. And when you continue to do this, you begin to build personal resilience. And that my friend, is power.

In wellness,

Susan

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Tag: Mindset

What We All Have In Common

And I’m here to tell you that you are not the only one feeling these feelings.

Change Starts With You

Perceptual Intelligence

You decided to change your perception. And guess what? YOU ARE THE PERCEIVER which means you are the DIRECTOR of your own thoughts!

Friday Focus – 6/22/18 {The One Word That Indicates You Have A Limiting Belief}

If it’s too hard to go the 180 from a limiting belief to a positive belief, try going to a neutral belief.

What Will You Choose Today?

3 Signs You’re A People Pleaser

The bottom line is: it’s impossible for everyone to like you, so why not start with YOU?

Regret

Our Brains Are Creative Machines – Is It Working FOR You?

It’s as if we were inside the movie this whole time and yet we didn’t realize we were the director of it all.

Friday Focus – 6/8/18 {True Commitment}

When we have true commitment towards a goal it also helps us to get to where we want to be FASTER. We don’t allow doubt to enter our minds. We don’t allow other shiny objects distract us from our vision. We see with picture perfect clarity what is important to us in order to achieve our dream.

Your World

Your world is as big as you make it.

I know, for I used to abide

In the narrowest nest in a corner.

My wings pressing close to my side.

But I signed the distant horizon

Where the skyline encircled the sea

And I throbbed with a burning desire

To travel this immensity.

I battered the cordons around me

And crafted by wings on the breeze.

Then soared to the uttermost reaches

With rapture, with power, with ease!

And I’m here to tell you that you are not the only one feeling these feelings.

Never miss an announcement!

Never miss an announcement!

You decided to change your perception. And guess what? YOU ARE THE PERCEIVER which means you are the DIRECTOR of your own thoughts!

Never miss an announcement!

If it’s too hard to go the 180 from a limiting belief to a positive belief, try going to a neutral belief.

Never Miss an Announcement!

Never Miss an Announcement!

The bottom line is: it’s impossible for everyone to like you, so why not start with YOU?

Never Miss an Announcement!

Never Miss an Announcement!

It’s as if we were inside the movie this whole time and yet we didn’t realize we were the director of it all.

Never Miss an Announcement!

When we have true commitment towards a goal it also helps us to get to where we want to be FASTER. We don’t allow doubt to enter our minds. We don’t allow other shiny objects distract us from our vision. We see with picture perfect clarity what is important to us in order to achieve our dream.

Your world is as big as you make it.

I know, for I used to abide

In the narrowest nest in a corner.

My wings pressing close to my side.

But I signed the distant horizon

Where the skyline encircled the sea

And I throbbed with a burning desire

To travel this immensity.

I battered the cordons around me

And crafted by wings on the breeze.

Then soared to the uttermost reaches

With rapture, with power, with ease!