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Seattle and SF Stress Management Coach, Burnout and Adrenal Fatigue

The Secret To De-Programming Your Brain From Habitual Stress!

It’s here folks! The long awaited, NEW Masterclass is open for registration!

If you’ve been in a constant state of overwhelm, never ending deadlines, and have the desire to truly crush those strategic projects, but can’t seem to handle the stress of it all, then this Masterclass is for you.

I’m going to breakdown exactly where stress truly comes from (alert: it’s not your work!), the two steps you must master to eliminate stress, and how you can use a step-by-step system to engineer the results you want.

In wellness,

Susan

When You Do The Work, Life Unfolds In Mysterious Ways

I am in no way a manifestation coach but one thing is for SURE. When you are performing at the highest level of how you think and feel, and your body, mind, and soul are aligned…Things like this are no longer a surprise.

Thankful and in honored I get to witness this on a weekly basis.

Whatever it is you are looking to unlock in your life, whether it’s love, career, health, or mindset, let this be the sign you have been looking for!

Go and FIND the right person who will help GET YOU THERE!

And if you need a stellar Stress Management Coach send me a message and let’s get on the phone.

Life is too short to wonder what if…. go out and kick start your own future.

In wellness,

Susan

Seattle SF Stress Management Coach, Adrenal Fatigue and Burnout

Wake Up Happier

The only thing we want in our life is to be happy.

When you think about anything you’ve ever set your eyes to achieve or acquire… it was to feel good.

Think about it!

Think of anything you’ve ever bought, set out to do, or dreamt. When you think closely, it was all in an effort to feel a certain state – to feel happy about yourself and the people in your life.

However, given that life is 50/50, it’s nearly impossible we can feel happy all the time.

In fact, when you over-desire happiness, that’s when you feel the most unhappy.

Though that’s not to say you can’t be at peace during times of distress.

When you wake up most mornings, what is the first thought you have when your eyes open and your feet hit the floor?

Is it:

Here we go again…
Sigh…
I don’t want to see “ABC” person
Why do I feel so blah?

Or perhaps you notice a low grade vibration that doesn’t necessarily get you jumping out of bed.

Most people spend their entire day trying to “fix” what’s causing them to feel this way.

Whether it’s something at work, the boss, the relationship, the boredom, etc. Most people try to make those things better so that they can feel good.

What I want to offer is rather than be at the effect of those things, it is to optimize the way your mind thinks and to train your brain in a way that automatically thinks better thoughts despite what is happening.

If you can think empowering thoughts that get you jumping out of bed and excited to make those circumstance better, wouldn’t that be a more effective use of your energy than trying to change what you feel is causing your stress, anxiety, and worry?

The former allows you to tap into your own power and use it in a way that serves you.

The latter forces you to be at the effect of something outside of you; and that is never empowering.

Learn to think differently and learn to think better thoughts.

Once you can optimize your mind to do this, suddenly you see life a little differently…

you may just wake up happier….and
you’re smiling and humming along to your favorite song as you grab your keys
laughing with your co-workers before jumping into a meeting
making small talk with the barista and tipping extra because you feel a lightness you haven’t felt in a really long time

Understand how to think better thoughts in every situation. It’s the key to happiness.

In wellness,

Susan

Seattle Stress Management Coach, Burnout and Adrenal Fatigue

4 Unconventional Ways To Beat Stress!

Every now and then I like to go live on Facebook and share some golden nuggets. Today was one of those days where I share 4 unconventional ways to beat stress the SMART way. One of those ways may have something to do with NOT working out. Yes, you heard that right!

Watch this video to find out why.

In wellness,

Susan

How To Leverage Worrying To Serve You

I’m sure we’ve all been there before… when our mind is consumed with what if’s, worst case scenarios, and anxiety ridden thoughts. Unfortunately, when we are in a state of worry, all we do is produce concern for the future (near and/or far).

Worrying hardly, if ever, produces a net positive gain for the person in worry.

All worrying does is produce cortisol in your system and sends a false alarm to your body and subconscious to stay in high alert.

So if worrying doesn’t serve our highest good, what can we do to redirect ourselves so that we are back in alignment and calibrated for optimal performance?

We leverage it.

Oftentimes worrying is another opportunity to look deeper into our limiting beliefs.

Somewhere, deep inside ourselves, there is a thought that is causing our worry.

And it isn’t about a deadline, moving, interviewing, having difficult conversation, or even the dog.

It goes much deeper.

The more you do to find the root of the worry, the less your worrying consumes you.

Think of worrisome thoughts as the branches of a tree.

We spend a lot of our time and energy trying to control and relieve each branch, when really unless we get to the root of it all… we give our tree (ourselves) room to grow more worries.

So spend some time in silence and ask yourself, “What is this worry trying to tell me?” and wait patiently.

Your job is to wait, listen, and appreciate the fact that this worry has come into your life.

Trust me, it’s the fastest most easiest way to relief….

…. and you get a much more rewarding answer for doing this work.

In wellness,

Susan

Seattle Stress Management and Executive Coaching

The #1 Reason For Recurring Stress And What You Can Do To Stop It

Recurring stress over the same issue may happen for several reasons, and today, we’ll be covering the top reasons why. But before we do, let me ask you this question. When you think about your stress, what or whom causes the stress the most? Could it be:

your boss?
staring at excel spreadsheets all day?
office politics?
cranky children?
mother-in-law?
too little time on your calendar?

Let’s take the lack of time on your calendar as an example.

The number one reason most people believe this is stressful is because they believe what is filling their calendar to begin with is to blame. They may say things such as, “I’m a busy mom with a full time job and my kids can’t do it without me” or “This is just how my life is right now; I can’t say no to anything on my calendar”.

When we choose to say these things, what we inadvertently are doing is giving our power away to outside circumstances. This leaves us in victim mentality, and this is never a good thing.

When we stay in victim mode we don’t make choices that serve us. Instead we continue to perpetuate the circumstance, and unfortunately, stay stressed!

What if instead you said things that gave you your power back and offered you choices such as:

I’m a bad-ass mom and cherish every moment I get with my children
I can look into hiring part time support to help with the chores
I will only say yes to invites that have a net positive result for me and my family

Thoughts such as the ones above take you out of victim mentality and propel you forward to take positive action. Staying in the original stressful thoughts only keep you there. See the difference?

Now, another reason most people stay stressed about the same issue is because they haven’t dug deep enough to the root cause of their stress.

Most often than not, when I first work with a client I see that there is always something much deeper than a “calendar”, “boss”, or whatever issue it was they originally came in with.

This is where we need to dig through layered thoughts, conscious and unconscious, to identify what the sticking point it.

It very well could be fear of death, security issues, lack of control, etc. and until we resolve THESE issues no matter what you do to try and control your calendar you very well may remain stressed because again, it’s not the calendar that is causing you your stress.

So ask yourself these questions:

Have I been speaking to myself as the victim?
How can I change my thoughts to propel me into positive action?
What could be the real issue underlying all this?

Until we treat the root of how and why we automatically think disserving thoughts, our stress may very well remain, and this is why stress is never a bad thing. Our stress is only trying to teach us what we need to bring to the surface so that we can finally resolve a much bigger issue and start living the life we know deep down we’re all meant to live.

In wellness,

Susan

Seattle Stress Management Coach, Eliminate Burnout

How To Be Stress Free

I get asked all the time, “Are you really stress-free? Is it possible?”

And for those that have followed me for some time, know that I like to say that life is 50/50.

And if life is going to be half negative…. well, our problems, unfortunately (or fortunately if you like the growth mindset), are forever.

However, that does not mean your stress needs to be forever.

Your stress can be something you quickly manage and disengage with on a problem by problem basis.

What I see most often though, is that people linger in the stress and make their circumstances much bigger than it has to be.

This happens for two major reasons:

We don’t know how to properly process the stress so that it can flow out of the body
We don’t know how to diffuse the root cause of stress at the causal level (most people react from the effect i.e., their job, a specific person, the neighbor, the road rager, etc.)

Suddenly, these same people who had one problem…. now have three.

You see, stress can be elusive when you don’t know what to pinpoint or HOW to disengage quickly and effectively.

When we don’t know how to process stress, we end up not knowing how to live life at an optimal level.

Why?

Because stress is one spectrum of our emotions.

When we know how to properly process and manage stress, we now know how to do the same for every negative emotion we ever feel.

But, back to the topic at hand….

Can we be stress free?

No, not forever.

But what we can be is a person with a stress-free mentality toward stress because we now know how to handle it whenever it arises instead of panicking or in high anxiety about the stress itself.

Do yourself a favor an get real intimate with why and how you react to every situation in your life. It will show you exactly what you need to work on.

In wellness,

Susan

Seattle Stress Management Coach for High Performers

Ready To Stop Stress Once And For All?

Mind chatter, anxiety, worry, fretful and sleepless nights, and not to mention feeling sluggish and empty about life… that has to go right?

You may have been wondering to yourself, “what’s wrong with me?” or “why am I the only one with this problem?”.

Trust me, it’s NOT just you and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.

And actually, this is a GOOD THING.

Why?

Because now you’re going to find ways to finally stop the madness that is controlling your work and your personal life.

And with the right solution, you may just find yourself feeling even better than ever before.

You see, once you train your brain to work for you instead of you working for it, suddenly life becomes enjoyable!

You’re going to find yourself smiling all the time for no reason, everything will seem effortless, and what used to phase you before will just roll off your shoulders.

If you’re ready, then sign up for my “Masterclass” waitlist. I’m going to announce something exclusive to those only on this list before I make this announcement public later in February 2019.

Learn the exact method that is helping high performers get back to high performance once and for all!

Join me.

In wellness,

Susan

Seattle Stress Management Coach, Adrenal Fatigue and Burnout

How To Ensure Happiness In 2019, And Beyond

It’s the beginning of the year and I’m pretty sure you’ve given your goals, themes, or word of the year some thought, right?

I want to share with you the ONE thing that will actually make you happy in 2019, and beyond.

Trust me, it’s not the dream job, the forever partner, or even the cute fluffy pup you’re planning on getting.

I explain it all in this video.

In wellness,

Suasn

Seattle Stress Management Coach, Burnout and Adrenal Fatigue Coach

Your Most Powerful Asset

When you think about the most powerful tool you have, what comes to mind?

Money
Time
or maybe
Love?

Yes, those things can get you a lot in life.

But none of those things would matter if we didn’t give it the meaning we are capable of giving it.

You see, our brains have the capacity to project whatever it is we want to see.

If you see time as hurried and scarce, that will be how you experience your life.

Thanks to the frequency illusion, we will only notice when time seems limited or scarce. Our minds will say, “See! I told you so! There is never enough time in the day!”. When really, there were moments when we were scrolling Facebook or checking our phones for new notifications multiple times a day.

And do you want to know why this is the case?

Because our thoughts are how we experience our life.

If you believe your happiness is based on the results from your job, then your happiness WILL be based on the results from your job.

If you believe love is hard to find, then love will be hard to find.

If you believe money flows to you easily, then money will flow to you easily.

If you believe you were meant for something big and purposeful, then your life will be big and purposeful.

You see, a part of our brain, the subconscious mind, always performs FOR YOU. It will never say no. It’s only job is to follow your orders.

And where do orders come from?

Our thoughts and feelings.

Where do feelings come from?

OUR THOUGHTS.

So let’s be real clear and honest… everything starts with your thoughts. It starts in your brain first.

Time, money, love, and whatever else you listed at the start of this post is powerful to you because you gave it meaning from a thought you had about it.

Now the big question is, are you choosing your thoughts or are your thoughts choosing you?

This is a trick question because…

… the illusion and major misconception that most people think is that our thoughts choose us.

Thoughts do not choose us; thoughts don’t just happen to us. We are the thinker of our thoughts. We are the creative force that gets to think whatever we choose.

Once you understand this crucial piece of knowledge, there is no unlearning this.

When you can harness the creative power you are and the most powerful asset you have – your brain, you are now stepping into the true seat of personal power.

How will you choose to change your life one thought at a time?

In wellness,

Susan