Worry Archives - Susan Choi

I’m sure we’ve all been there before… when our mind is consumed with what if’s, worst case scenarios, and anxiety ridden thoughts. Unfortunately, when we are in a state of worry, all we do is produce concern for the future (near and/or far).

Worrying hardly, if ever, produces a net positive gain for the person in worry.

All worrying does is produce cortisol in your system and sends a false alarm to your body and subconscious to stay in high alert.

So if worrying doesn’t serve our highest good, what can we do to redirect ourselves so that we are back in alignment and calibrated for optimal performance?

We leverage it.

Oftentimes worrying is another opportunity to look deeper into our limiting beliefs.

Somewhere, deep inside ourselves, there is a thought that is causing our worry.

And it isn’t about a deadline, moving, interviewing, having difficult conversation, or even the dog.

It goes much deeper.

The more you do to find the root of the worry, the less your worrying consumes you.

Think of worrisome thoughts as the branches of a tree.

We spend a lot of our time and energy trying to control and relieve each branch, when really unless we get to the root of it all… we give our tree (ourselves) room to grow more worries.

So spend some time in silence and ask yourself, “What is this worry trying to tell me?” and wait patiently.

Your job is to wait, listen, and appreciate the fact that this worry has come into your life.

Trust me, it’s the fastest most easiest way to relief….

…. and you get a much more rewarding answer for doing this work.

In wellness,

Susan

Sometimes it’s hard to take action, especially when you don’t know what the future holds or how you even feel about which direction to go toward.

But I’ve learned time and time again, and coach this as well, that not taking action IS action – you’re just directing your energy the other way!

Oftentimes we let our perfectionism get in the way of taking action. We don’t want to mess up, or better yet, FAIL, because how horrible would that be?!

But guess what? Staying still doesn’t make it any better. Sometimes, we need to take one tiny, small step in order to gain a data point so that we have more information. And sometimes, we need to take a couple of steps in order to get better information.

It’s the only way we’ll ever know.

Besides, what we’re most afraid of isn’t necessarily what happens, what we’re afraid of is how we deal with what happens. It’s our thoughts and emotions about the situation that cause us suffering.

It can either be a learning experience or a time to shame ourselves. Which one will you choose? Because yes, our brains are that powerful to create both realities.

So, in what ways will you take that one, small step? How will you choose to think about this next goal of yours? Will it be an adventure or will it be something you have to do?

The choice is yours, always.

In wellness,

Susan

Susan is a Life Coach based in Seattle, WA. Her main focus is to coach people build a strong emotional container so that we can experience the fullness of life coming from a place of deep confidence. Susan also coaches clients looking to heal adrenal fatigue by using a mental meta-model aimed at breaking down old mental patterns and behaviors so that we can finally tap into our own personal power.

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